Boys will be boys…

             Referring to the information read out by a friend saying how men have different boxes for every different activity and every realm of their life, while women tend to have a nexus between every single thing happening around them and their emotions…

             I’ve read a few books which mentioned how men have different dimensions to react to a situation compared to a woman… I mean cummon, if your wife/girlfriend asks you whether she’s looking fat, you can’t (or rather, shouldn’t) blame her if she gets upset when you take 2 minutes to answer that question… [this was one of the examples in the book, please don't think otherwise...].
The right answer is - a spontaneous “No!”…..  Responses like “Ummm..”, “Let me see the photo from the trip to the beach…”, “I don’t know honey, u look the same…”, “……(too busy flipping TV channels to respond) “…. will no doubt be dealt severely. 

            Guys generally tend to be silent and go into their shell (box called ‘nothing’) when they come across problems or situations they can’t deal with right away… Girls on the other hand prefer to speak out; they want someone to attentively listen to the burdens their heart is bearing (for girls, all serious matters are somehow or the other linked to emotions!!)
This is where the true compatibility test begins…

How? u ask me…

              Well, whenever a guy is approached by someone with a problem… let’s assume it’s another guy friend (this happens very rarely… males have a llllot of ego to go to this step), what he does is, analyses the issue and gives a perfectly logical solution to it. He does the same thing when a girl comes to him with a problem. So what’s wrong with that??? It’s just that, when the girl comes to him with a problem, she’s not expecting him to give him a solution (surprised!!??). What she actually wants is for him to listen to her patiently, just as her best friend did over the phone (obviously a girl too), and her office colleague (girl), and her far away cousin (girl) who bumped into her by chance… Yes, she has narrated her tale of sorrow to all of these listening ears, who with their “Oh my God!”, “Oh u poor dear…”, “How could he do that?… ” had retained high rankings in her ‘Most adorable pple’ list.  When she gets a logical explanation to her day’s fretting topped with a remark that she shouldn’t have taken it all that seriously, that it wasn’t a big deal and that her boss might have been thinking about the overall business benefits before saying mean things to her… she is distraught… she gets more wild and upset on you for not understanding her at all. She lists out the few mean things u said to her the night before, the week before that and at ABC’s wedding last year (all these things are surprisingly relevant to tonight’s discussion… u wonder how!!). The weeping and sobbing had begun much earlier…Of course, by this time a typical guy would be perplexed, not understanding what was it he said that triggered such a melee of tears… The guy takes one look at the problem now before him, and walks out the door (he is in fact walking into his shell which he uses as a refuge). This leaves the poor damsel in distress more agitated and she feels uncared and unloved…

             Now, consider that a guy walks home from work… He is more silent than usual (this means, if he usually greets his wife with a “Hi”, he now utters a silent grump at the door). The lady of the house smells a problem and asks the husband (extra sweetly) how his day was… After waiting for 5.30 min for the answer, she decides to venture out in the silent woods again… “Anything interesting happened at work today, honey?? You seem rather quite…” No reply again… Clearly, the man wants to be left alone in his shell to ponder over his affairs all by himself. He was the same with his friends after work hours, but they didn’t seem to be bothered with his silence… In fact, they laughed and joked all the more around him, making him forget all about the issue for the time being. The lady still kept pestering him… she didn’t seem to understand that he needed her to just leave him alone… By this time, there’s an upheaval of thoughts (need i say emotions??) going on in the woman’s head… “Why isn’t he saying anything? Could something have happened to the shares we bought last week?… Is he quiet because he’s cheating on me?… Maybe it’s his new secretary… Oh that *****!!”… This is followed by some more random, baseless, senseless ( i know the guys would like to throw in a few more adjectives here) questioning, then sobbing, a bit of yelling,.. some more sobbing…. and it goes on… 

Get the point?? It’s the same story everywhere… Don’t ask me how i know… All i know is.. boys will be boys.. and girls will be girls… Enjoy

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